What is the difference between judgement and discernment in the scriptures? The Bible says don't judge your neighbor, for the same measure you judge them by, you will be judged by (Matthew 7:1-2). The Bible also says "test everything" (1 Thessalonians 5). Jesus said don't judge by appearances, but judge with right judgement (John 7:24, 1 Cor 2:15).
1 Corinthians 2:15 (ESV) says "The spiritual person judges all things, but is himself to be judged by no one."
Or the NIV translates it as: "The person with the Spirit makes judgments about all things, but such a person is not subject to merely human judgments."
So in any given situation I may apply love to a certain extent, truth to a certain extent, grace to a certain extent, and evaluation, and exhortation, among many others. We study the scriptures thoroughly and daily to be aware of how and when to use which precepts in which situations.
If one of my friends were struggling with pornography, I could go to him and say, "Friend, pornography is wrong, it's evil. I'm encouraging you to change your ways in that area." I've just "exhorted" him to change. Exhortation is a spiritual gift. He has not been judged in anyway. He has been exhorted. I've politely and humbly rebuked him in private. I've applied some love, some mercy, some grace, some truth, matched with evaluation of his circumstance and a humble rebuke to encourage him to change.
The world today thinks that love means accepting any behavior in anyone no matter how destructive it is to that person. That is not the Christian way. We don't encourage people to be in sin, or stay in sin, why? Because sin is destructive, and sin leads to spiritual death. It's loving to warn people of the bad paths they choose. Would you tell a drunk to keep drinking? Would you encourage an addict to keep using drugs? Would you encourage a homosexual person to stay in a culture that often leads to drug use and a sexual practice that can often lead to the spread of disease? Of course not. It wouldn't be loving to do so.
Someone might say that you are only allowed to rebuke someone in person. That is true that the standard model for rebuking a fellow believer is in the context of first meeting them in person. But it also says if they refuse the rebuke you are to come back with several others. If the person still refused the rebuke you are to make the sin known to the entire church congregation. Once again we need to look at context, and qualifiers surrounding a statement.
For further reference Matthew 18:15-17 says "
But we aren't finished here. Matthew 18:15-17 is not the only teaching we have on dealing with "exposing evil" and "revealing sin" and rebuking believers and non-believers. There are numerous other examples in the scriptures. Think of the confrontation between the apostle Paul and the apostle Peter at Antioch.
Galatians 2:11-14 says "
Part of your job as a Christian is to lovingly and humbly rebuke someone. You must remember to do so politely. Be cautious of how it's done. But it's important to do so. Christian love is quite different from the ideas the world has about love. Christian love is not unqualified love. Christian loves means warning people who are in sin. Isn't it loving for a parent to discipline a child when they misbehave? Absolutely that is loving. Love includes many boundaries. Part of Christian love is to rebuke those who are in sin.
The correct response to a gentle rebuke, is to be broken or disturbed by it. Then one laments (grieves, feels awful about it), and expresses a contrite heart (a heart willing to change). Then the person repents (changes their actions and beliefs on the issue), and thanks the individual for the rebuke. The incorrect response to a rebuke is to become defensive, angry, and lash out at the person trying to do the correcting. The incorrect response is to lash out and say "don't judge me." Titus 2:15, 1 Timothy 5:20, Galatians 6:1, James 5:20, Matthew 18:15-17, Proverb 27:6, Rev 3:19